How to Be a More Interesting Person 🧐 5 essential aspects of fascinating individuals by @jeroseland on 3Speak
I’m going to quantify the concept of being an interesting person into five distinct aspects: knowledge acquisition, societal outliers, raconteurism (invented word — interesting people invent words)...
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How to Be a More Interesting Person, Five Essential Aspects of Fascinating Individuals. Hey, this is Jonathan Roseland with Limitless Mindset, and this podcast is going to dive into one of my old school articles, kind of a social dynamics, meta-analysis, if... You will, so you're going to want to check out the article itself over on limitlessmindset .com, linked below wherever you're listening to this, as I've got kind of some cool photos and imagery to go along with it. Let's dive in. If your objective is to become an interesting... conversationalist which is what I have been accused of being innumerable times if that's your objective tricks and techniques will only get you so far at some point you actually need to choose to become a more interesting person and we're still early in the new year we're still relatively early in the new decade, so becoming a more interesting person, I would challenge you to make that a resolution. I'll be the first to admit that being an interesting person is just about as subjective and generalized description you can make about a person. It's like saying someone is smart. There's a lot of different forms of intelligence. Remember, Einstein didn't even know how many feet were in a mile. That would be 500, 200, 5,280. I believe, I believe, correct me if I'm wrong, about that, 5,281 time. I was having dinner with some Europeans, and they were making fun of these, the silly measurements that us Americans have for things, and they were like, how much is a mile? And I said, 5,280 feet. And they just cracked up. They thought that was hilarious. So, you're welcome to steal. that joke from me when you find yourself surrounded by people using the metric system. In this article, I'm going to quantify the concept of being an interesting person into five distinct aspects, which are knowledge, acquisition, social outliers, raconteurism, and yes, raconteurism is an invented word. Interesting people invent words, okay. Communication style, work, and the entrepreneurial spirit. If you can focus a little bit of time and effort on just one of these aspects, it will noticeably increase how interesting you are perceived to be and the attention that people show you. If you can make a real commitment to personal development and excellence, in all five, you will experience spectacular benefits in your personal and professional life and will be perceived as the quintessential charismatic person. In this article, I'll refer to the perceived quality of being... interesting as a person's interest quotient. This article will quantify why a person, like, say, Richard Branson, the eccentric founder of the Virgin conglomerate of companies, has a very high interest quotient, and why your average school teacher or civil servant has a lower interest quotient. First of all, Knowledge Acquisition. You can drastically increase how interesting people perceive you to be by increasing your knowledge about interesting subjects. I would say this is probably the most efficient method for increasing your interest quotient. All the other ways of being interesting involve a lot of effort and personal development, blood sweat, and tears. Increasing your knowledge involves an investment of just a few short hours a week. So, what types of subjects will link you a more interesting person? I would say, first and foremost, subjects that you are passionate about and naturally interested in. A close second is subjects that are specialized and not general. knowledge. This goes to the universal supply and demand principle. Almost any American man is an expert on the subject of football. As a result, when, as a result, no one would regard a conversation about football as being particularly unique or outstanding. Whereas if I can carry out an extensive conversation on the subject of underwater cave diving, I will be regarded as a very interesting person. Here's a couple of subjects that people in general find interesting. History, business, economics, psychology, marketing, technology, the internet, dating, or sex to give you just... a few. I'm a big fan of passive information consumption. I've put out a couple of podcasts about this recently, so passive information consumption, which can be done while driving, working out, running errands, or taking care of household tasks, or even while working, depending on the type of work you do. And here's my top three... information consumption methods. Listening to audiobooks, and I recommend nonfiction for the most part. I have, in the past, used a service called Audible, that sends me new audiobooks every month for a very reasonable fee, although I actually discontinued that service, and now I will sometimes go on a CastBox FM. where a lot of you listen to me, and they have an awesome library of free audiobooks. Secondly, speaking of CastBox FM, I like to listen to podcasts. Love doing that. You can download thousands of podcasts for free on almost any subject you can imagine in Apple iTunes or with CastBox, like I said, which is really better than Apple iTunes, in my opinion. And thirdly, watching documentary films. If you, like most people, spend several hours every week in front of the TV, why not spend this time being infotained by watching documentary films? I discovered that the audio tracks of documentaries usually contain the vast majority of the information. So a lot of times I will watch documentaries while working on my computer, on my websites, or my content, or whatever. You can watch over 3,000 different documentary films for free on the website, topdocumentary films .com. You are, you should have already, I hope you have already checked out the Limitless Mindset Documentaries. I produced a couple of those. Boy, I spent so much time editing them, so I really do hope you to give them a, give them a gander. Or a Netflix membership, I think that's $8, 9, I don't know how much Netflix is these days. I don't pay for it. You might be better off with, like, a curiosity stream. They seem to have a lot of documentaries. Check out those kinds of things. I'm a big fan of the cable cutting. I'm a big fan of getting rid of the legacy television in your household. It'll make you more interesting person if you can talk about some obscure historical... happening as opposed to the happening on reality TV. This week. Next, let's talk about work and the entrepreneurial spirit. Consistently, the most interesting people are those that are in an interesting line of work, the heart surgeon who volunteers in third world countries, is always going to be more interesting than the guy who manages a grocery store. However, there is one profession that almost always is more interesting than any other, and that is the entrepreneur. Those who recognize, create, and capitalize on opportunities while working for themselves will always be fascinating. Now, the risks of starting one's own business are, not for everyone. There are some ways that you can adopt the entrepreneurial spirit, whether you are on the path towards becoming an entrepreneur or firmly committed to a 9 to 5 job. First, start something unique. The core tenet of entrepreneurship is starting something unique, doing something in a different way than it's been done before. Secondly, doing something crazy. That's right. Pick one crazy thing you always wanted to do, but never did, because people told you it wasn't a good idea, or you didn't have it all planned out. Do that thing. Don't wait for the right circumstances to align. Just start doing it now. Why not, right? You only live once. Thirdly, personal branding. The most interesting entrepreneurs are the rock stars of their particular fields. They build up a personal brand around themselves. And then fourthly, fail forward. Failure is an inevitable part of... our lives. Entrepreneurs typically actually believe that failure is an integral part of the success process. Next, raconteurism, to use that great, invented word. A raconteur is a person who is skilled in the art of storytelling. From the cradle to the grave, we all love a good story, yet for some reason, our society, once we reach adulthood, the majority of conversations are occupied with small talk, work, and verbal autophilatio. Yes, autophilatio. Go and Google that. You can drastically increase your interest quotient by having some excellent stories to share. What kinds of elements does an interesting story contain? Money and business, adventure or danger, travel, psychology, ego, and personality, disaster or failure, alcohol, and social situations, and, of course, sex. If you have interesting stories of your own, that's best, but... If you don't, you can borrow these stories of others. For example, every night when we go to bed, my wife asks me to tell her a story. Every night she wants a story. And I quickly ran out of all of my own great stories and moved on to my less exciting personal stories. But she wanted more stories. She wants a new one. every night. So what I started doing was listening to a podcast and YouTube channels where people would, I'm not sure what is the name of this genre. I will link to this, but there's this genre you can find on YouTube of kind of scary stories or weird stories, dangerous stories that happen to people. I think a lot of it comes from Reddit. Probably some of them are fake, but it gives me all the ammunition I need to give her a great story every night. I will link to those resources in the article below wherever you're listening to this. And I also have embedded a video I did, a off-the-cuff vlog that I did in Barcelona. where I tell the whole story of the time that I was deported from Columbia. If you want an example of good storytelling, go check out that video. It's embedded. It's waiting for you there. Next, let's talk about social outliers. And I've got a funny graphic to go along with this. The other weekend, I met a very... interesting guy. He didn't have a particularly interesting job, stories or knowledge that he shares while we were hanging out. What he did have was a distinctive British accent and a very unique watch. Do you remember the last time you met a small person? I bet they seemed more interesting to you. These two examples are... Both have qualities that make them social outliers. In a lot of ways, they are very average people, except for a glaringly obvious characteristic that makes them stand out. So think of that one or two unique quality you have and figure out a way to let everyone you know about it. Next. Finally, in fact, is communication style. Communication style has a lot to do with how interesting people perceive you to be. This is the fake it tell you make it part of being more interesting. Mastering the art slash science of communication is an excellent subject to study. Especially now that you've listened to this and are going to be an aspirational knowledge acquisition junkie, I hope, at least. So, communication style is things like your tonality, your speaking pace, your listening ability, and how you are mirroring your partners the way you present yourself. all of that good stuff. In fact, I delve a whole lot deeper into all of that in my two books, which are how to be cross-eyed and don't stick you dick in a blender, which is kind of a dating relationship book for men. I have some real in-depth chapters in those books on communication style and a bunch of really cool ways to hack it. So I do hope you check that out. And I will add, in conclusion, in closing here, as an aspirational, interesting person, you'll want to check out my deep dive review of the book, The 2A.M Principle, Discover the Science of Adventure. And this was a book that was a blast. to read. This was a really fun book where there's some sort of social interaction researcher guy. He's actually an academic, but he's an academic with a crazy life, and he's got a whole formula for adventure in the book. Actually, this book was kind of pricey. So maybe you just want to check out my book review. of it. That's my take on how to be a more interesting person. I hope that all the interesting people out there listening to this, drop me a line, drop me a message, a comment on social media, or wherever, letting me know what, what makes you fascinating. I'm Jonathan with Limitless Mindset, looking forward to a continued conversation with you.