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Lifehack or Lose Out in Life: The manifesto of an unapologetic "control freak" by @jeroseland on 3Speak
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You've been sold sweet lies by the mainstream personal growth pop culture. That you should just be yourself. That you should go with the flow of life more. That you can manifest the life you want via positive thinking. That you should be kind to yourself, no matter what. That obsessive self-improvement feeds an inherent psychological defect somewhere in the murky depths of your being, that you should do less to get what you want. These lies are comforting, and perhaps they work for some people, but not for me, and they probably won't help you. Those peddling them for profit, or just because they are popular? underestimate just how detrimental a physical imperfection can be. Doesn't it seem that these bland platitudes often come from people, authors, influencers, gurus, who are conventionally attractive, or were for decades of their lives? They are almost certainly also underestimating the significant advantage of being good-looking, while misattributing their success to personal growth principles that appeal to the natural human bent toward laziness. If you, like me, were cursed with a conspicuous physical imperfection, You must life hack relentlessly. You need the underground, unconventional, barely legal, ride the ethical edge shortcuts to what you want. If you're not occasionally called a control freak, you're underestimating the amount of agency you need to bring to bear in life. And when you're called that, just do what I do. Smirk. You need to bring sharper tools to the project of architecting a beautiful life. I'm Jonathan Roseland with Limitless, and this is an audio chapter from my book, How to Be Cross-Eyed, thriving despite your physical imperfection, a memoir and life-hacking manifesto. For everything mentioned here, Check out the link to the Multimedia Chapter in the description below wherever you are watching or listening to me. And that's also where you can get the updated and revised third edition of the book. Let's dive back into Chapter 1, Life Hack, or Lose Out in Life. As its subtitle You don't have to be cross-eyed to read this book, but it is also not for a general audience of people interested in personal development. It's for that one or two percent of the population that has a conspicuous physical imperfection, which I fall into. I'm cross-eyed. If you're reading this, perhaps you are two. I have fairly conspicuous strabizness, which you can see in this photo. I think this uniquely qualifies me to write a book on thriving despite having a physical imperfection. There are certainly people out there with more conspicuous physical imperfections who have it worse than I do. However, the eyes are said to be the windows to the soul. They are indeed a part of nearly every important human interaction. Not having normal eyes has been a disadvantage that I've needed to develop a specific set of skills and life strategies to overcome. I was discussing this book with my lovely fiancé. And she asked if the book's purpose was to help people with physical imperfections boost their self-esteem. Not really. This book is about the life hacks I've employed over the past 20 years, strategies, methods, and tools that really work to help you overcome the challenge of a physical imperfection and thrive. These things will likely improve your self-esteem, but they will also work if you have low self-esteem, or no self-esteem, or too much self-esteem, as I'm sometimes accused of having. Self-esteem is not my primary focus. There are better books on the subject. My focus is on things that work. This is not your typical self-help book. I've had a pretty interesting life. I've dated a politician's daughter in Medellin, Colombia, I've hung out with spies in Kiev, Ukraine, I've almost died underwater twice, I participated in a bank robbery, and I lost my virginity to a spy. Yes, really, that story is in my second book. I'm a pretty good storyteller, so I think a memoir is the right format for me to write a book as opposed to the problem, generalization, platitude, strategy, formula that most personal development books follow. About the third edition. This is actually a slimmer version of the book I first published in 2018, which will serve you better. Since then, I've become a real stickler for good grammar. As a few reviewers pointed out, the original book contained more than a few glaring grammatical imperfections. I've done my best to correct those here, with the one remaining that cross-eyed is actually supposed to be hyphenated. These two words appear so many times in this work, reflecting my own persistent physical imperfection, that I'll leave them as they are. The original book contained numerous lurid tales and details of my life as a seducer across three continents. This element of the book was there to illustrate how someone might overcome their conspicuous physical imperfection and enjoy a lively dating life by employing an uncommon set of social dynamics strategies. But this may solely the empowering message of the book for some. It may come across us. bragging, or compel female readers to throw the book away in disgust. So, I've cut some chapters and stories. If lurid tales and details aren't so off -putting to you, More recently, I wrote a book for men specifically about dating, seduction, and ultimately finding meaning in the enduring embrace of a virtuous woman. Jents, if you're frustrated with dating or the quality of the women you find yourself entangled with, read, Don't Stick Your Dick in a Blender. I was banned as an author by Amazon, without cogent explanation of what in my work was unacceptable. This is doubly frustrating, as I made a genuine effort to adhere to their content guidelines in the manuscripts I uploaded. The book before you is the uncensored edition. I make no efforts here to appease the nonsensical and vague sensibilities of our big tech overlords. Getting the most of this book, a few guidelines for high leverage reading. I'm a big fan of digital books, because it's so easy to highlight, take notes, and bookmark resources you want to implement. You'll notice the book consists of many short chapters, as opposed to few longer chapters. This is to make it more consumable and easier for those who want to jump between sections. Due to the book's storytelling format, I think you'll enjoy it more if you read it from cover to cover. However, it has been modularized, so you won't be totally lost if you skip a chapter or two that doesn't particularly interest you. While listening to audio programs is more convenient and allows for multitasking, your comprehension does take a hit. I'd encourage you, actually, to read the book if you can. When I listen to audiobooks that I actually want to learn something from, I usually listen to the chapters multiple times, and I listen to them while I'm doing something else that's relatively mindless, like cardio at the gym, or commuting. You'll notice this book contains a lot of brain science and health information. I've tried to strike a balance between... substantiating my claims with scientific references, and maintaining readability. If you're skeptical of a biohack that I talk about, check out the science I cite, or search on my website, limitless mindset.com, where I have hundreds of detailed articles in which I provide significant clinical evidence for anything mentioned. Here. After reading, give your mind a little downtime to metabolize the information into wisdom. I try to read in the evenings before going to bed. The digital and print editions are somewhat limited to just text on a page. What a book is supposed to be. If you find a chapter particularly interesting, I encourage you to check out the version of it I've published here at limitlessmindset.com backslash htbc e dash d l. This is where I've created media-rich chapters with photos, videos, and additional links. to resources, and that link you will also find via the PDF or QR code for this audiobook. Do yourself a big favor. If you're reading the digital edition, use white text on a black background, which you can enable in settings if you're reading at night. About the audiobook, I have a... face for radio, and a voice for radio. So I've recorded and produced this audiobook for your listening pleasure. I'll give it to you for free as a token of appreciation for choosing to spend your time with me. If you like audio programs, you'll want to listen to the limitless... podcast, which you'll find at limitlessmindset.com backslash podcast. I encourage you to subscribe to it via the CastBox app. This is the best app for listening to audio programs. It's free and commercial free. Feel free to share this book. This book will always be free to anyone it could help. Downloadable versions of it are available wherever you got the book. There are several books I've read that were given to me as gifts, or that the authors made available for free download, which profoundly changed the trajectory of my life for the better. The stuff in this book has really helped me, and can help this often ignored and abused, unsung group of people with physical imperfections. If I can liberate just one person from their self-made, invisible prison of self-loathing by making a load, it's totally worth it to me. A huge thank you to those of you who actually bought it, despite my best efforts to give it away for free to the world, there's this phenomenon of sunk cost motivation. If you pay for something, even if it's not very expensive, you're much more likely to follow through, take action, and actually improve your life. And you can pay for this book, at my website or not. Next, Frequently Asked Questions. Limitless Mindset.com is visited by thousands of people every month, so I'd like to address some of the questions I've received about this book. Why write a book? For over a decade, I've had a dynamic idea, the Limitless Mindset Blog and Video Channels. However, I've recently become aware of how non -optimal of format blogs and videos are for conveying powerful information that can be deeply transformative for those who need it the most. I read the shallows, what the internet is doing to our brains, and learned that the HTML formatting of information on websites and the high distraction layout of YouTube or other popular video platforms severely retards our reading comprehension and metabolism of information into knowledge. Reading books is a very different mode of thinking, and a sublime pleasure. It's one of the few ways to really reside in someone else's head and think their thoughts. Reading books entails an intangible romance with a writer that reading blog articles or watching videos was a raconteur, a skilled storyteller. Thus, this book will be a memoir of my adventures, misadventures, and learning experiences. Next. There are already a lot of self-help books out there. Why is yours worth reading? Again, most self-help books follow a very predictable formula that makes for uninspiring reading. I've opted to illustrate the life hacking strategies and tools with storytelling. I think this memoir will have significantly more entertainment value than the average self-help book. Furthermore, I do something that's disappointingly rare in nonfiction, which is thorough meta-analysis of human performance studies. Every month around the world, hundreds of new scientific trials are published, but they remain inaccessible. And every month, many thousands of blogs and articles are published online. But many of them simply rehash what other bloggers are saying, or attempt to grab clicks with sensationalistic headlines. There are surprisingly few writers like me who actually delve deeply into placebo-controlled science and present it in well-researched articles and writing that are consumable for the public. Next question. Your Twitter bio says that you're a smart drug dealer. Is this book just going to be an extended catalog of the supplements and biohacking products that you promote? No, neutropics, smart drugs, and biohacking have been a massive game changer for my life. I'm not aware of a self-help philosophy that even comes close to the transformational bang that you get for your biohacking buck. spent. For over a decade, I've been studying neutropics and consulting biohackers on how to use them to accomplish their goals. I will touch on some neutropics and biohacking products in the book, but I'm aware that not everyone can afford these products or has access to them, so they're not the focus of the book. Next question. I don't really struggle with a physical imperfection. What should I do with this book? I know that a lot of you in my audience are very good-looking people. I'd encourage you to get this book and give it to someone in your life who is not so fortunate. It may really help them. If you're concerned about offending them, I'll include instructions for sharing the digital version anonymously with it. Alternatively, you can obtain the print version and leave it where they're likely to find it. Next question. How do you define a physical imperfection? Aren't we all physically imperfect? Almost all of us are less beautiful than an airbrushed Megan Fox or Channing Tatum. ...have conspicuous physical imperfections. Thanks to a birth defect, accident, medical condition, or just an unlucky role of the genetic dice, we have something about us that is not within the normal spectrum of the natural human physical form. It's likely the first thing that people notice about us when they meet us. This is a unique challenge that cannot be overcome, simply by being confident. faking it until you make it, or reading books about self-esteem. Thriving, despite a glaring physical feature, requires an uncommon set of barely legal biohacking tools, social dynamics strategies from the fringes of polite society, and rapid mindset transformation technologies, which this life hacking manifesto delves deeply into. Next question. In your newer vlogs, you now wear an eye patch. Why did you make this change? Good for my age, don't I? I decided to correct one of my most grievous heirs and cover up my crossed eye in public. I should have done this earlier. There are a few good personal development lessons in why I didn't. First, Casting your identity in stone kills growth. And let's be honest, I made cross-eyed my identity. I was the unapologetically cross-eyed guy. But more recently, I had the most mind -blowing day of my life as a biohacker, and it reminded me that personal growth and embracing adventure demand a flexible, identity. It's okay to hold to a couple of core values and principles, but certainty is the enemy of edifying evolution. Identity is better than I in his book. He recommends not being too married to an identity as it closes you off to transformation and growth. Manson's law of avoidance is... The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it. I say don't find yourself. I say never know who you are, because that's what keeps you striving and discovering, and it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others. I wrote an essay about sex addiction. In it, I made the point that it's an especially bad idea to have your identity married to something negative. Then, I looked at the man in the mirror. I had allowed my public identity to become entangled with my ugliest feature. Also, what got me here... won't get me there. In this book, I describe a multitude of lifehacks for improving your looks, networking up, and sharpening your social skills. And the lifehacking approach paid such dividends that I ignored what had held me back from being more successful in business and its obvious solution. my crossed eye and an eye patch. Finally, I was letting the trolls and bullies limitly. I've been on the receiving end of a couple of decades of trolling and bullying, which has imbued me with skin a couple of miles thick. Oddly, this has given me a quantum of respect for the schoolyard bullies, who used to call me four eyes, or whatever. They at least had the balls to do it in person, unlike the multitudes of cowardly internet trolls, who hid behind anonymous usernames and anime profile photos. The correct response to the congruence testing that the universe hurls at you, women bullying from men, and petty rules made by petty tyrants. The correct response to this congruence testing is almost always to smirk and keep doing what you're doing. I've got a real... defiant streak. So as long as the internet trolls bullied me about my crossed eye, I just kept showing my unafraid face to defy them. But really, my crossed eye is a costly conversion optimization problem for my content, message, and livelihood. Over the years, many well-meaning people stumbled upon my videos and questioned, genuinely. Can smart drugs, neutropics, or biohacking make you cross-eyed? No. These things can have some very strong effects, and even negative effects in rare cases, but they don't cause strabismus. which I have, or make anyone cross-eyed. If they did, it would be very well documented in the human clinical studies on neutropics, which encompass many thousands of individual participants. You can search PubMed, but it is not. If they did, there would be anecdotal reports to this effect in the biohacker forums, but there aren't. There's just me. Now, nobody will be dissuaded from trying neutropics or biohacking because of the way I look, thanks to this stylish eyepatch made by a master leather worker on Etsy. For the longest time, I told myself... naively, that my message would bear fruit in the fertile soil of those minds who might on planet Earth, and it's really time to leave behind naivete. Next question. Does the eye patch change how people treat you? On the internet, I get fewer trolling comments about my appearance, and fewer pirate jokes than I expected the iPatch would elicit. Out in public at the numerous swanky cocktail parties I attend, just kidding, has a brand new dad, I don't make it too many cocktail parties these days. I note that people pay just a little more attention to me. Very few people ask me about it. When they do, I give them a version of this silly story, which I posted on social media. Yes, I'm wearing an eye patch now. And it's finally time I told the truth about why my eye is... Like that. It begins with my mother. After college, she took a solo Euro trip. The kind of spiritually expansive journey, you go on before seed oils ruin everything. She ends up in Crete. She's big into hiking, sunlight exposure, and keeping her circadian rhythm synced with the Mediterranean daylight cycles. just really living her best proto-biohacker life. She goes hiking along the coast. There were caves. Of course, there were caves. And in one, there was this big opening in the roof where the sunlight streamed in, like something out of a perfume commercial. She stood there, basking in the moment, contemplating her future, so full of mystery and adventure. Then, that's when she hears a voice behind her, a deep melodic murmur in Greek. She turns around and sees a cyclops. Yes, a literal living, one-eyed man mountain, glistening with olive oil and ancestral masculinity. He's wearing some kind of animal hide that definitely hadn't been... sanitized. She freezes. He smiles. Don't be afraid, he says. Welcome to my cave. And he did say it in perfect English, by the way, with a bit of a charming island accent. Now, my mother is a bold woman. She didn't backpack across Europe to not vibe with supernatural beings. They got to talking. He noticed she only had a couple of protein bars for lunch, and being a gracious host, he offered her some traditional crecian cheese and locally fermented biodynamic wine, which he explained was made by his cousin, a winemaker who only listens to goats to decide when to Harvest. They talked, they laughed. The Cyclops listened. Really listened. At one point, he said,…
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