@zitalove: First of all, kudos to you on your videos! They always touch on important and controversial topics that we should all be talking about. I agree with your points. I actually advocate for and advise my friends to make the first move. There's no harm in doing such as far as we do it right. As a woman, if we approach a guy and subtly inform them of our interest, we shouldn't be blind as to his response. If he doesn't like you, you will know, your gut and intuition will tell you and it will also show in how he treats you. If you notice there is no interest or that you're doing all the weightlifting then leave with your dignity intact. I think it's when girls choose to ignore the blatant signs of disinterest that they find themselves stuck in situations where the love isn't reciprocated. Amazing video dear!
@beckyroyal: Firstly, let me say that I love your glasses, they really suit you. Now to the real gist....you know anytime I come around your post, it's gonna be lenghty so pls bear with me 😁. Are ladies permitted to ask a guy out? My answer is yes because humans have free will but truth is God never intended it to be so. He gave the man the responsibility of finding or going after a woman. I think this idea of a woman going to ask a guy out is society's way of trampling on God's original plan, which doesn't bode well for either parties. Men are egotistical beings. They derive immense pleasure from chasing after a woman and finally winning her heart. The woman that goes ahead to tell the guy "oh hi, I think I love you" ....that woman is watering down the passion in the chase for the guy... which to me Is not fair. Allow the guy do all the chasing abeg . As a woman if you feel you love someone or are attracted to him, what you can do is to flash him some green lights. Let him know that you are available but don't overdo it else you appear desperate. If you play your cards right, the guy will certainly do the needful and enjoy the process of the chase. Most women I have come across who were the ones to approach their man, are lamenting cos the guys does not take them seriously. Women are like gold, the guy has to mine the cave to discover the gold. I have never heard gold miners say that the gold appeared to them and said "pick me" . They sweat for it and when they finally get the gold, they celebrate and cherish it well. This is how it was meant to be. You can read the book of Ruth to get more clarity. For the second question about why Ladies keep falling for guys who don't love them? To me, I don't call that love but infatuation. If those ladies are interviewed, you will discover that what they call love is merely lust because their emotions is centered on the physical or material attributes of the guy. They like his six packs, his haircut, his broad shoulders, his biceps, height and account balance... there's nothing deep. Some ladies also claim to love guys who are rough in bed too. All these points to lust and not love. To love someone...is beyond the physical. I know you can be attracted to someone via their physical attributes but for that feeling of attraction to grow and become love, there must be something deeper coming to the table. Things like provision of security for the woman against those who seek to hurt her or even helping her advance in her career and life visions, making sacrifices to see that she becomes the best at what she's working on etc. These are pointers to what love shows and does. Another factor is that many of these ladies already have a picture perfect guy in their mind that they must belong to. Virtually every lady says that they want a tall, handsome dude like Thor but no woman says they want someone as lanky as , spider Man , even though he is the one that truly loves and cherish them. The next factor lies in riches and fame. As long as they can have access to shopping money, they think they will be happy. My suggestion and opinion on this is that Ladies should value themselves more and seek to become better at chasing their dreams. From doing so, they will come to know those men who are truly genuine, because love is beyond the physical. As a woman myself, even though I get attracted to a nice looking male, there are certain tests that the guy will undergo that will reveal to me his true intentions. I am also mentally stimulated. The guy that I date, should be able to engage me in a good conversation and rattle my mental capacity. It's beyond six packs. Thank you
@jasperdick: If women would rather flirt and make it clear that she'd like the guy to ask her out instead of being the one to do it... She must just know that most men are pretty stupid at reading the signs... I'm afraid you must make your flirting a little bit more obvious than you think, otherwise we're just going to think you're friendly! Hahaha! I think ladies should ask men out if we are already your friend than we're probably keen to take it further, which is not always the case for ladies? So I think ladies probably have less chance of being rejected? You're probably less likely to be accused of harassment as well?
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