▶️ Watch on 3Speak --- I don't know about you, but I've been noticing alot lately that people have this incessant need to place blame for their lot in life or any other bad thing that happens to th...
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@dbooster: That action just screams Boomers. I don't know... we are getting older, so if you told me they were Gen Xers I wouldn't be shocked, but that kind of "Karen" behavior screams Boomers... A spoiled generation that was given everything and it wasn't enough so like locusts, they consumed everything until we are left with crumbling world we have now. That's the stereotype, anyway, as I'm sure you're aware of. Kids have this incredible sense of "fairness". You are around kids a lot at the school I imagine, so you probably see this. They are always measuring what everyone else gets and they want the same or it's unfair and they get angry. I always tell my kids life isn't fair. Some people are born stronger, some are born smarter, some are born with a heart defect and die young, some are born with magic genes and will life to 99 despite abusing their body with every chemical, drug, and bad food known to man. We always have two choices: we can shake our fist at the heavens and curse the universe for this unfairness, or we can wish people the best and move on, doing the best with whatever we were given. The first option might feel good in the moment, but that anger is going to make you miserable and moreover the more anger we get over the unfairness of life, the more we will obsess over it and see it and the more angry we will get. It's a vicious cycle. Life is unfair. The sooner we accept this and stop shaking our fist at the heavens about it, the better. Hmm.. I don't think my kids really understand that. But they know the lecture by now 😂 So maybe that's something.
@nuthman: Have you ever seen the reddit group called AITA (am I the a hole)? It kind of makes me lose my faith in humanity. It is a lot of posts of people blaming another person for really dumb things and asking if they are the a hole or not. It is pretty amazing to read. I think 80% of the posts would not have been written 30 years ago because there would be no confusion. Something is wrong with how people think these days!
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@fredaa: Additionally, maybe I am wrong to just accept the fact that sometimes crappy things happen. Many people don't seem to understand this, crappy things will always happen, but our attitude to these things is what really matters.
@rafzat: I guess peoppe don't like to take blames or accept that they are wrong I'm sure that the girl's parent will know that she was drunk but they chose not to talk about that
@mypathtofire: Sounds an all round bad situation tbh. Re the blame game, they say the fish rots from the head down and if the values being promoted in our society are bad, this will reflect in the people. Did I just blame someone else? lol
@iwannabeme: Such truth here! This line really got me, "...people can't seem to handle the fact that life isn't fair". It's so true. I've enjoyed reading all of Brene Brown's books and listening to her Ted Talks. I think Blame and Shame are so closely linked and we've all got to try to get through both of them together. I know when I'm in a super blamey mood, I often feel my own shame for how I've treated someone in the past or for how I haven't advocated for myself in the past when someone wasn't treating me well.
@justbabybee: Will our next thought or sentence fix the situation or change it? What would this world be like if we could bypass the bitterness and resentment and just live each moment knowing life is unpredictable. That life is unpredictable, but we can and should plan for it, right? The bitter and sad reality of life is only about how one thinks about it. It is our thinking that makes it sad or pleasant. It's like someone who is afraid of the fast current in a river, but it becomes very fun for those who go rafting there. BTW, you really found a very pleasant place for recreational contemplation. I imagine being there in a place you have visited dozens of times in your life.
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@melinda010100: Very insightful! All you have to do is listen for a second and you will hear someone blaming somebody else for their problems. Has it always been this way throughout history, or is it worse today? !DHEDGE
@jmehta: People need to stop blaming each other and spend some time alone with themselves. Blaming only creates a negative space which breeds only further negativity.
@thebighigg: Everyone plays the blame game and it's really a shame. As I've gotten older I find that I play it much less and find it to be really a waste of precious time. Our courts are filled with lawsuits because of the same. Someone has a bad surgical result and see it as a lottery ticket to sue the doctor. The bar served to someone underaged, yes a big deal, but I don't think lawsuits will make anyone happier or bring her back like you said... Maybe I'm getting wiser as I get older or just sick of all the crap that goes on in the world. The world has never been a perfect place, and from what I see it's never really going to change. The best you can do is find moments like yours and find peace!
@ericvancewalton: Adopting a victim mentality instantly puts people at a disadvantage it's as though their personal power is instantly vaporized. I see this a lot with the younger generations too. Your story about the person who was "hit" by the driver reminded me of a story about Winston Churchill (which is the antithesis of it, actually). Have you heard about this one?
@vincentnijman: Beautifully put. It's easy to play the blame game/ the victim but it serves no one, it just adds to the misery.
@acesontop: We don't blame anyone though when things are working fine. It's our merit then 😉