Pod Spam Episode 2: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others?

Welcome to Pod Spam - Spamming the Blockchain one episode at a time. This is your host @tpkidkai and for today's episode we will talk about How to Stop Comparing yourself to Others?

Envy comes from people's ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts. -
Jean Vanier -

Have you ever caught yourself in a scenario wherein you compare your life and the lives of others to yourself? I think this has been common for some and I myself isn't free for such a habit.

We sometimes compare stuff like finances, successful relationships, houses, and even social media reach especially us content creators. We wonder are we doing enough? Is there something wrong?

In most cases, after digging into the rabbit hole our mindset and self-esteem tend to go down beyond saving. We stop and produce a ton of pessimistic remarks on ourselves. Sometimes we bad-mouth other people in our minds. Knowing that it is "safe" because no one's listening except yourself.

So how can we fix this? I am using we because I still experience such and currently working on it.

Today I will be sharing some tips that at the very least helped me to minimize myself on comparing others.

Going back to the first quote from Jean Vanier at times we tend to belittle our strengths, what we are capable of, so let's start writing down at least things that you love about yourself. This stuff is what you can always brag on. Sometimes we are afraid to show off our strengths because we are afraid to be judged but we can always still be humble and recognize that we are good at something.

An example would be I love helping out people. If there's something within my capabilities I would always invest my time to be available because I know that it takes courage to ask for help from others and I myself received a lot of help from other people too.

Be mindful and avoid the one that triggers the comparison wheel.

What triggers you? Is it your friend's social media account? In this day of age, the majority of the triggers are social media posts wherein someone is posting that they are "living the life" that you want to have.

Have you considered the word "unfollow" / "unfriend" or even "block" at times? I am guilty of such before. I always think that "unfollowing" and "unfriending" someone on social media is something dangerous and can create a gap with the person but now I find it easy cause I understood that most of them do not even notice that I did it. Maybe because I have a very low social media presence and seldom use the platform lately. Welp, I really don't know.

Because Facebook knows that I am interacting with the people that I am envious of. It's algorithrim plays a joke on me daily and I get notifications that add more to the trigger. Thus I decided to unfollow and unfriend some to further avoid the damages.

Compare yourself to yourself.

Rather than comparing yourself to other folks why not compare yourself to yourself?

It might sound crazy but it works. If you haven't started it, why not do it now? You start listing down the things that you have achieved so far and you will notice how much growth you have as of the moment.

By thinking about your personal stuff, you tend to think less about others' achievements.

In my case, I always struggle with creating content in previous years. I always have a hard time writing at least 250 words per blog post. Now on average, I have at least 500 words written on my blogs and sometimes exceeding 700 words which is a great improvement for me.

The best way to do this is to create a journal about your plans try to stick with it and list your achievements too! You can join Hive and write down your plans, your goals, and dreams perhaps that you want to accomplish. This is a great avenue, as when you try to share yourself on the platform not only do you get some feedback from other people you also get some monetization with your content.

Lastly, be grateful.

As we tend to see what we lack at times have you ever tried to look at some good things that you have in life instead? I know it is hard, especially nowadays that it is a challenge to find good stuff happening in our lives but take time to appreciate things you have. Try to develop peace in your life and be content with what you have today. Still continue with building your goal celebrate success and failures and hope to achieve better results in the coming days.